Paul Taruskin

Therapy for Adults and Couples



Humans are pack animals. We depend on our relationships to survive. So, when we are deprived of the love and care of supportive relationships, we find ways to meet these needs in their absence. These strategies help us minimize our pain allowing us to survive childhood and navigate adulthood.

Now you are finding that these survival strategies are becoming problems of their own. Do you struggle with letting your guard down, even for the people you love? Is it difficult to put your needs over the needs of others? Have you developed habits of avoiding "feeling" and find that you are disconnected from the world around you?

Therapy offers a unique relationship that invites you to explore your patterns and practice new ways of relating to others. I offer warmth, curiosity, and openness as together we seek out your ideal YOU and explore how to let this person shine through in all your relationships.

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A Little About Me...

Therapy is my second take on a career. I previously spent eight years working in education, where I came to truly recognize the uniqueness of each student I encountered. We are all different learners, different thinkers, different feelers; all possessing unique talents and sensitivities. As a teacher, I saw firsthand how each person’s unique strengths and struggles affected their ability to succeed in school and how limited our school system is for accommodating individual needs.
I made the decision to be a therapist so I could celebrate what is special and unique about each person I contact, rather than reinforce only the behaviors that fit the public school model. The fact is some characteristics are more rewarded in our society than others. In fact, character traits are devalued or even stigmatized if they don’t fit the norms of the dominant culture.  I take a strong stance towards social justice, looking beyond these messages to find the strength and beauty in everyone.


Services I Offer

It would be my privilege to join you on your path.


Individual Therapy

Empowering Adults to Continue Growing

My approach is warm, relational and collaborative, built upon the belief that you are the expert on your life and have the agency to be the change you are looking for. I offer compassion and a bit of playfulness as a fellow traveler on your healing journey. I believe this journey is both about looking inward at growth areas, problematic patterns, and strengths as well as looking outward to contextualize your struggles within the realities of your early life experiences, attachments and the many greater forces of the world around us.


Couples Therapy

Strengthening Your Most Important Relationship

Love is beautiful when it's going well. Our relationships can bring out the best in us. And, unfortunately, they can bring out our worst sides as well. Nobody teaches "Relationships 101", yet we expect to find someone who fits us innately - your soulmate, your perfect puzzle piece. 
It rarely works out this way.
The truth is, relationships are hard! They take a lot of work! We have to learn how to be with our partners and to ask for what we need from them. 
Enter, Couples Therapy.
Together we can look at the pattern and rhythm of your relationship with your partner. We can explore what emotions are triggered frequently in your relationship, where they come from and what they look like on the surface. Over time, you and your partner can learn communication skills and ways of understanding one another that bring you closer in times of distress, rather than pushing farther apart.


Contact Me

Paul Taruskin

 Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #112660

Supervised by Deb Lyman, LCSW #22113

Practicing through the auspices of Grateful Heart Holistic Therapy Center, a non-profit organization providing affordable psychotherapy services to adults, children and adolescents, couples and families throughout the greater San Francisco Bay Area.

2340 Ward St. Suite 204

Berkeley, Alameda County 94705


(510) 422-1316